I thought that I would start this out with a recent story where I ended up shaking my head as I held it low….for I was the one that had made the mistake.
At a recent trip to the bowling alley, I decided that I wasn’t that hungry. I already had my drink and I didn’t want the french fries. I just wanted the main part of the combo. The “combo” was the
Ham & Cheese Wrap. Note the word “wrap”…very vital word.
In building independence and social skills, I will often write down our order and send it with one of the boys.
This time it was M’s turn. He had already begged me to go with him, to “help” of course. “M…everything’s written down. She knows what to do. It’s not a problem.” So I send him back off.
Okay…at this point, I should interject what my part of the order looked like.
Ham & Cheese Wrap (Sandwich Only)
Now, for those of you that have that unique talent, you will already see the error of my ways. I, on the other hand, had to be “told” by my oldest. So you can imagine that he came back to the table I was at and stated, “See! I told you should have come up there with me! Now she’s confused!”
“How can she be confused? It’s a simple order?”
“I can’t figure out how to explain this to her. How do I explain how to make a wrap into a sandwich?”
“What are you talking about?!?”
As the words came out of my mouth, the paper was being handed back to me and the meaning was becoming clear. I had written down the wrong word.
Cardinal rule of Asperger’s is that they are concrete thinkers. You do NOT throw in abstract thought without proper and sometimes extensive training.
Now, to we mere mortals, the above order my seem simple….to a trained Aspie, it is utter nonsense (on our part). So, as my son handed me the note, the imaginary hand slapped the imaginary forehead in the, oh so familiar, “Doh!” pose. Outwardly, I could not help but to chuckle….not at him, but myself.
It was my error for writing it the way I had. I immediately took pen to paper and made the following correction….
Ham & Cheese Wrap (
Sandwich Only) Wrap
Correction made. Planets are back in alignment.
My son now looks at me and states, very clearly, “Why didn’t you say so to begin with?” Nuff said.
You can’t add to that….but with more laughter at the mere mortal’s mistake.